Resilience is our ability to continue toward the goal even when things go wrong. When we adopt the mindset that life happens for us, not to us, then every situation is a gift. Every time we encounter an obstacle, it is an opportunity for an alternative path to open up. The first step in becoming resilient is acknowledging that shift happens.
Hi. I’m Shelley Carney, Personal Development Life Coach, and I believe we grow in resilience and confidence whenever we persist through setbacks and move forward. The Confidence Framework shows us that our purpose leads…
How do you feel when somebody really listens to you? Encouraged? Validated? Loved?
Do you know how to make others feel this way by actively listening?
I believe you cannot move forward in any relationship unless both people feel they’ve been heard.
Why Should I Listen?
We secretly wonder, “What’s in it for me?” “If I’m listening, then I’m not sharing my knowledge! People will take me for granted and forget I’m there.” This is actually the opposite of what happens.
When we take the time and effort to listen to others, we
What triggers fear for you?
What does fear feel like in your body?
What is your usual reaction to feeling fear?
What avoidance behaviors do you notice?
My deepest and greatest fears manifest in different ways but usually come down to these two: Not feeling safe and fear of abandonment. These fears will lead to me acting in ways that may not be in my best interest. That’s why it’s important to be aware of what causes the fear that leads to self-doubt and then avoiding the steps necessary to achieve my goals.
I believe fear is the imaginary line…
I believe introverts have a stronger desire to serve the needs of others than extroverts do. If you are an introvert, you’ll understand that pushing yourself out into the world takes confidence, courage and commitment. You must overcome your natural tendency to stay home alone with your thoughts and journaling to share your message with the world and help others.
I’m Shelley Carney, Podcasting & LiveStreaming Host, Coach/Consultant, Personal Development Expert, Interviewer, Author, Presenter, Introvert and a 9 on the Enneagram chart. As an acutely introverted wife and mom, I overcame fear and perfectionism to…
Your actions show the world exactly who you are, what you believe, and what is most important to you. If you want to know somebody’s priorities and values, look at what they do every day. Actions speak what is in your heart and mind.
So, what are you doing today that demonstrates your true self?
I believe taking action is necessary before we gain confidence in any situation.
Planning to Succeed
Once you have your purpose or mission figured out, then what? How do we move forward to our goal without getting sidetracked or giving up? Do you have a plan for getting to your goal? This crucial step can mean the difference between starting your journey or just wishing for life to be better. So what’s the first step?
I believe knowing my purpose leads to planning my goals. As I described in the Confidence Framework, first we decide our mission, then we plan how to accomplish it, then we take action…
What’s your life’s purpose? Do you have a mission? How about a passion? Guiding principle?
Getting clear on your purpose can cause some people to seek out mentors, books, courses, coaches and spiritual gurus. They keep asking everyone and looking everywhere for that specifically unique reason they exist. But they’re all looking in the wrong place.
I believe our underlying purpose is service. That changes the question from what is your purpose to how do you best serve the needs of the world? Instead of looking for the answer from the world out there, we…
Have you ever watched a motivational speaker on stage, an actor in a play, or a presenter you admire command the attention of an audience and thought, “I wish I had that level of confidence”? What is your confidence level? Do you wish it was greater? Are you willing to do the work to make that happen?
I believe the confidence to grow to a new level in your life is not only attainable, but it lies just one step outside your current zone of routine and comfort.
Confidence is a topic that is frequently…
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How many times have we said, “Knock on wood,” “Don’t say your wish out loud or it won’t come true,” or “Things are going too well right now, something bad is bound to happen”? What would life be like if we turned this around and started asking, “How much better will this get?” “How is my life going to improve this week?” Or, “What if all my dreams come true?”
I believe focusing on what is right instead of what is wrong, and focusing on solutions instead of problems, can transform our lives…
Where is everybody? I used to have friends I’d see and talk to all the time, but now I feel lonely and abandoned. How can I connect with people again?
When changes take place in our lives, we often lose sight of who our friends are and how we can connect to the new people who show up in our world. How can we build up our support system so we don’t feel so alone?
I believe knowing what support you need and where you can find it will provide the security you need to grow during times of disruption…